TED演讲

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2024-12-31 02:03

第 PAGE 1 页共 9 页【演讲者及介绍】Katie Hood 凯蒂·胡德。革命的关系通过教育年轻人健康和不健康的关系之间的区别，凯蒂·胡德希望在虐待行为开始并影响整个一代人的关系健康之前阻止它。【演讲主题】健康的爱情和不健康的爱情的区别翻译者psjmz mz 校对者Chen Yunru 00：12 So when you think about a child, a closefriend, or a romantic partner, the word love probably comes tomind, and instantly other emotions rush in: joy and hope, excitement, trust andsecurity, and yes, sometimes sadness and disappointment. There might not be aword in the dictionary that more of us are connected to than love. 当你想到一个小孩子、一位密友或者伴侣时，脑海中很可能会跳出“爱”这个词，然后其它的情绪也会立马出现：比如欢乐和希望，兴奋、信任以及安全感，并且有时还会有悲伤和失望。字典里可能没有一个词比爱更能说明人与人之间的紧密联系了。 00：37 Yet, given its central importance in ourlives, isnt it interesting that were never explicitly taught how to love? Webuild friendships, navigate early romantic relationships, get married and bringbabies home from the hospital with the expectation that well figure it out.But the truth is, we often harm and disrespect the ones we love. It can besubtle things like guilting a friend into spending time with you or sneaking apeak at your partners texts or shaming a child for their lack of effort at school.100 percent of us will be on the receiving end of unhealthy relationshipbehaviors and 100 percent of us will do unhealthy things. Its part of beinghuman. In its worst form, the harm we inflict on loved ones shows up as abuseand violence, and relationship abuse is something that one in three women andone in four men will experience in their lifetime. Now, if youre like mostpeople, when you hear those stats, youll go, Oh, no, no, no, that wouldnever happen to me. Its instinctual to move away from the wordsabuse and violence, to think that they happen tosomeone else somewhere else. But the truth is, unhealthy relationships andabuse are all around us. We just call them different things and ignore theconnection. Abuse sneaks up on us disguised in unhealthy love. 考虑到它在我们生活中的核心地位，有意思的是，我们竟然从来没有被明确地教过如何去爱。我们从交朋友开始，然后确定恋爱关系，最后结婚生子，将小孩从医院带回家。对这一切都是怀着能顺利搞定的期望。但事实却是，我们经常伤害或不尊重所爱之人。可能是一些很小的